1. Show up.
Too often we are present with our kids physically, but not present mentally. Guess what? They can tell!
2. Do what needs to be done.
We need to set our priorities and then follow through. While we need to choose peace over productivity, there's no getting around the fact that on a daily basis there is also plain old hard work that needs to be done.
3. Make a plan.
You do not need to schedule every minute of your day, but your day does need to be anchored by even an informal rhythm that lets you know you have your priorities covered. The busier you are (in terms of outside jobs or activities), the more you need this plan.
(If you need help making a plan, can I suggest Steady Days for a little gentle guidance?)
4. Don't overthink it.
I have noticed that we often create our own misery and worries by overanalyzing and worrying about our children, our days, our plans, and pretty much anything else that distracts us.
Being an intentional mother is an art, not a science. There are many ways to do it effectively, so don't overthink it. Instead show up (see #1), remember that this moment is perfect, and give it your imperfect best.
Let grace fill in the gaps.
"However glorious an action in itself, it ought not to pass for great
if it be not the effect of wisdom and intention."
~ Francois de la Rochefoucauld