Ever noticed that your children struggle with transitions? In the beginning, just going from one activity to another is a major challenge. "Okay, Timmy, it's time to leave the library." Warning: At hearing these spoken words, loud, violent eruptions and a toddler's stiff body plastered to the floor may result.
Over the past three weeks we've had three sets of houseguests. The children love it when we have visitors; the extra attention fills up their love tanks. But when people leave the crazies descend on us! I don't recognize my monsters children for several days; I'm convinced all happiness is eternally over. But slowly, the lovely little people I'm used to emerge from the fog and normality returns.
This frustrates me sometimes, but recently I realized that I go through similar adjustments. I remember returning to school after summer break, for example, and feeling a little "off" for a while. Or heading back to the office after a relaxing holiday with Steve. That uncomfortable, back-to-the-real-world feeling - well, it's challenging, isn't it?
I always pressure myself in times of transition to "get back to the routine." Apply self-discipline, Jamie - just do it. But I'm wondering if that's the wrong approach. I think it might be better to go with it. Allow the uncomfortable, follow rabbit trails, eat popcorn or cereal for dinner. And wait.
Because in a few days the peaceful rhythm returns, without any conniving or bribing.
When we trust the process, life's steady pace resumes in its own good time.
